Don’t get me wrong, of course I love my family. It’s an internal law in my head that says I must, and I know should I lose them, they would be missed. However, we all have those days where we’re just climbing the walls and need OUT, if only for an hour or two without someone demanding something or feeling like we’re trapped in a mad house.
This is a topic I think a lot about, especially now since they boy is currently being homeschooled and the girl has nothing but me for a parent (a very long, sad, twisted story that I’d rather not make public). For years I couldn’t leave her even with relatives else she’s completely freak out, so for 7 years it’s been just me and her on the weekends. And now it’s just me and the boy every day until the girl comes home from school. Yes I have made the right choices for my children and don’t regret them one single bit, but if I don’t get out soon, I’m going to lose my mind.
Which brings up the question to all reading this – how my YOU time to you really get? I’m not talking about those sacred hours after bed time where you usually do nothing but pick up toys or just simply collect your thoughts after a hectic day (or crash, I’ve been known to do that a time or two). I’m also not talking about when the kids are in school and you run errands. I’m talking about real “get out and do something with friends or by yourself” time. Activities – for fun! – outside the house minus kids. Remember those?
Personally I can count the number of times I’ve been outside the house without kids. In the past 10 years I’ve seen 2 or 3 movies, been to 4 concerts, visited the local comedy club once, and spent a night out on the town with an old friend from high school (which also happened to be my 10 year class reunion last summer). Go ahead and do the math – it averages to about once a year.
If you don’t go out that often without your kids, what’s your excuse? Are you made to feel guilty by family and friends for leaving your kids with someone else? Do you get the “you and you alone should take care of your kids” speech? Is it lack of funds, time, energy, or interest? Will no one even take your children for a little while?
With all that said, I’m doing the unthinkable tonight. I’m going out. Yup, making my escape. Leaving my daughter with her grandmother and the boy with his dad, and heading up to the local blues bar for some live blues music and drinks with a friend. And no one is going to make me feel guilty about it. 😉